The surprising health benefits of arguing!
Could arguments actually be good for your health? Well, that seems to be the case! Let’s see what science has to say about it.
It has been proven that relationships with no conflict are the least healthy. Most often these typical ‘no-conflict’ relationships end with a whisper.
Growth in a relationship arises when there is disappointment. Disappointments arise when there are discrepancies between expectation and outcome. Though it is true that most of the time, your expectations will be met– sometimes they won’t be. When the latter happens, conflict occurs.
It can be very destructive if you fight dirty because you’re destroying each other’s trust, respect and confidence. When you fight in ways which are constructive, you’re literally constructing and building trust, confidence and encouraging real acceptance.
Here’s are a list of reasons why it is sometimes ok to fight.. in constructive ways!
Fighting renews courtship
When disappointment or conflict occurs, apologies are often (i.e. pretty much always) in order. A solid apology comes with feelings of warmth and connection. While you are in the apology process, you reaffirm all the qualities you appreciate about your partner. If the apology is really on point, your partner will open up to you and help you become aware of how your choices impact them.
Boosts confidence in handling stress together
The best team building exercises are built around stress. Not coincidentally, what occurs next is creative problem solving, in which some next level of bonding takes place. It is an assurance that will take you to the next level of bonding.
Provides an opportunity to be deeply known and understood
These hot-button issues more commonly arise during sensitive moments – moments of hurt, moments of disappointment. If something has bothered you, there’s an opportunity to explain why it bothered you. It is an opportunity for both of you to be understood by each other.
Arguments are about listening as much as they are about speaking. At the end of the day arguing is one of best tools for a healthy relationship. Just remember that not every argument is worth having- be wise!
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